Colorism, like sexism, like racism, is UNIDIRECTIONAL. It is what happens to folk darker than a brown paper bag.
Read MorePicture it “Brooklyn 1991.” I was riding the B52 bus with 3 other friends on my way home from school. I was in 6th grade and girls in my school were getting their hair relaxed…except for me.
Read MoreFour years old. That’s also how old I was when I received my very first relaxer. Unbeknownst to me, it was also the beginning of my journey to loving myself.
Read MorePolice brutality and Karen's karening, at its root, is a sexuality issue.
Read More“Come as you are” has always been one of the lines from Church that has always made me roll my eyes. Mainly because no one actually means “come as you are.” I mean if I showed up at Church on a Sunday in a mini skirt and crop top, it would be a topic of discussion for years to come! I’m also the Pastor’s daughter, so could you imagine the after-church tea that would be sipped?!?! When you come to church, you are expected to come in your Sunday best. If you have ever had the privilege of attending a traditional Black Church of any denomination you know exactly what I mean. Everyone is dressed to impress in their hats and suits. Someone’s Sunday Best is usually their top tier clothing, if they aren’t going to slay anywhere else during the week, they are going to shut it down at Church on Sunday. What if I told you though that this false sense of coming as you are to church doesn’t just start with what we wear?
Read MoreConsider This: “You young people are asking the wrong question...You have the wrong audience...You’re asking people who hate you ‘are you pretty?’”
Read MoreOne afternoon while watching Disney’s CoCo for the umpteenth time, myself laying on the couch as my daughter and granddaughter are laying on the floor in front of me (46yo)- my granddaughter, 5 years old, popped up and said, “Noni, are you a Black girl?”
Read MoreAs y’all know, I am a sex and relationship therapist. But within that my focus is on helping women, Black women specifically, to find their authentic selves and to unleash that bit on the world.
We are often required to show up in ways that are inauthentic to us.
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